I May Be Gay, But I Ain't Ignorant!

I tend to get more e-mails than comments, which is cool. Here's one I just got. I wouldn't post the name of the person, who—considering his take on gays—might be living in an area where he feels it's impossible to be openly gay. Or he might just be suffering from a bad case of Straight Stockholm Syndrome:

"Subject: Please, at least act like you have an open mind

"Please, Please, Stop the making sure everyone knows you have no point of view except a liberal one. One of the biggest problems gay people have today, is they are just like minorities with a total allegiance to one party. It's killing us, and making neither side want nothing to do with us. Liberal hate is the next headline, and your senseless, one sided, ignorant view while showing pictures of naked men is the exact reason why gay people are suffering. If you were a straight person in control of this country would you be impressed? No wonder we never get anywhere. Quit trying to piss off 50% of the population and form some actual credible, and concrete reasoning for your ignorant and polarizing views on something most people already know you know nothing about. Seriously man, what are you really doing to help? Think for yourself man. The dividing party is obviously the Democrats anyway, and if you haven't figured that out watch CNN these days with Obama and Clinton. Please, let us think for ourselves and make up our own minds. We will gain more respect as a whole if you just let us be individuals instead of insisting on sticking to the gay liberal talking points that get us despised and railroaded constantly. We're not on top so quit trying to shove everything in peoples faces. It doesn't work except to help them win and make their points! Thanks"

I love the polite "thanks" at the end. Here is my reply, after the jump...

"Subject: Please, at least act like someone who disagrees with you is not a knee-jerk anything and isn't ignorant

"Your arguments have no merit for a couple of reasons. First, I don't need to have an 'open mind' when it comes to a party that has energized itself on gay hatred. That is the definition not of an open mind, but of self-destruction. 'Liberal hate' is non-existent. The only hatred coming from liberals is in reaction to our demonization (literally) by the leading voices of the right. Second, I don't have to be fair and impartial on my own fucking blog. That is what a blog is—it's a personal Web log, not a news service. (Those are impartial, yet most conservatives think they're not if they aren't sufficiently conservative, too. Liberals are 'one-sided,' conservatives are...what? 'Correct?') Being liberal and enjoying the beauty and sexiness of men is not 'the exact reason why gay people are suffering.'! That is like telling the Christians to stop being so darn Christian so maybe the lions wouldn't find them as tasty. People who are anti-gay will only soften when exposed to gay people, and that includes the fact that gay people like to look at hot gay people the same way straight people like to do that with straight people. Why are you not lambasting People Magazine for showing stars in swimsuits? Oh, because gay people are not in control of the country and either way don't mind that straight people enjoy their sexual sides. It's a joke to claim that the dividing party is the Democratic party based on the Obama vs. Clinton primary. Were you blind and deaf when McCain and Romney and Huckabee were duking it out? Know why they aren't anymore? Because the Republican primary is set up to squelch contenders superfast. That led to a lot of anger on the right, an anger that continues. There are plenty of right-wingers who despise John McCain...and in fact, at least a portion of that hatred comes from the fact that he is not as vicious as they'd like on gay issues. I pity you for being a gay person who would say, 'We're not on top so quit trying to shove everything in peoples faces.' Being 'on top' is not the goal, and shoving things in people's faces is not what is happening—simply being gay and expressing it is not an assault against people who are not gay. Anyone who thinks it is has serious hang-ups about homosexuality to begin with—and, apparently, that condition affects gay people, too. If we don't agree on the gay issue, which, let's face it, is not the only issue out there and should never be the deciding issue in picking a candidate, I can't imagine we agree on many others—which is probably why you're a Republican and I'm a Democrat. Thank you, Matt

"P.S. What brought you to my blog to begin with? Were you Googling 'McCain' or 'gay porn?'"

Comments

[jim]

what a dumbass..........like this blog is the mouthpiece of the GAYS!!!!!! i love this blog, by the way......

jim

[John Logsdon]

Matt..I'm sure you're a mouthpiece for something...I sure hope it isn't for the gay people of the world. Your view is exactly that...yours!

Keep on keeping on....most of us understand.

[Tomi Luka]

This dude doesn't get it.

As much as I find the mainstream gay community a bit oversexed, I'm also aware that we cannot present an asexual version to the world in order to be accepted. If that's the case, I'd like to have all those straight strip-clubs, hooters, victoria's secret shows, etc. out of my face, so we can make things square.

[Matthew Rettenmund]

Thanks, guys. I can't help it if I'm a horny mouthpiece. I hate arguments like his which are also used to chastise drag queens or anyone acting "too gay" at parades for fear the straights won't like us. I'm all for immersion therapy.

[Patty Hose]

You go, Matt! It's your blog and you can say whatever you want! If Mr. Hompophobic-homo-Republitard doesn't like it then he can start his own. Not that anyone would read it.

BTW, I think he was Googling the porn, and himself.

xox, Patty Hose

[sam]

The problem with that guy is not that he’s angry. It’s that he doesn’t know where to direct his anger to. He might be pissed about his assumption of you not making up your mind about who’s entitled to win the presidential election (B Man or Hill Shorty as I call them, holla!).
It seems that you haven’t dismissed one yet (correct me if I’m wrong). He saw your comments, then saw the hunks and went: “Oh ish, another sex-obsessed fag hating on Hillary”.
One characteristic of the gay guys in my environment is their simplemindedness (is that a word?) which makes them ignorant and politically inactive and I find myself an outsider most of the times when I discus political issues in my country. It makes me relate, to a small extent, to his resentment-filled letter. This is obviously unjustified since he doesn’t know you.
Anyway, shout out to u: your cowboy picture is soooo cute I want to steal it and claim it’s me sitting on the horse (which might get some folks confused since I’m Black). By the way: thanx 4 posting so much on Madonna, I’m pulling my hair in anticipation for Hard Candy!