As of midnight tonight, it will be exactly five years since my first post. It's hard to imagine it's been that long, and a lot's changed—the tone and subject matter are different, how often I post, my limits (no nudity in a couple of years due to ad constraints). I've devoted a crazy amount of time and money and energy to this blog for a very small financial return (you couldn't guess low enough), but it's always rewarding to have this forum with which to express myself, keep my writing ability fluid, perhaps influence a couple of people here and there, share obsessions with strangers (in both senses of the word) and learn new things.
Take That's Howard...can you believe this happened onstage at a pop concert?
Here are some of the posts that were most important to Boy Culture's history. For the uninitiated, some of the oldest ones refer to Boy Culture, the movie made of my novel; I started the blog at the time Boy Culture was being filmed as a way to keep people informed of the progress...and it all snowballed from there.
Some of these posts are milestones when it comes to the hits they provided but most are filled with original writing and/or photography and video and are just the posts of which I'm proudest. I hope you'll take some time to click on them and send their links around to others—and some time is what you'll need...
FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novella, novel and movie Boy Culture; might be my ultimate post.
From '07, one of my faves. Old iPhones were better because they were worse.
"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.
BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.
FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.
RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.
DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.
BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.
AN OBSESSION IS BORN (2009): One of my best posts about my obsession with...obsession.
ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.
PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.
HAVEN'T WE MET? (2010): Celebrating my time with someone I've only met once—Madonna.
THE PICTURES OF VERNON GRAY (2010): Materialism isn't always greedy.
FREEDOM ISN'T FREE (2008): Documenting my trip to Puerto Rico in words and pictures.
GLACIAL PROFILING (2007): In which I manage to relate Tasti D-Lite (RIP) to my '80s teen angst.
THIS WAS THE NIGHT (2010): I finally locate the long-lost video of my drag performance as Samantha Fox!
THE FOUR-DAYTRIPPERS (2009): San Francisco in words and pictures.
PARTYBOY (2008): Turning 40. Sigh.
KATHY'S CHOICE: MY THREESOMES vs. MARCUS WELBY S&MD (2009): A fun but frustrating meet-up with Kathy Griffin.
ART IMITATES LIFE (2006): My 9/11 and my distaste for grief tourism.
"CALL ME" (NO, SERIOUSLY!) (2005): My first post on this blog and still one of my favorites—it's about meeting Debbie Harry at an exclusive AOL Sessions taping for The Curse of Blondie, but it's about more than just that.
MY ROXY HEART (2006): The day The Roxy went bankrupt. Plus, bisexual French guys'll break your heart.
PROMISES, PROMISES (2008): The first appearance of my four-legged offspring, Hyphen & Sash Rettenmund-Vélez.
FOR THE BIRDS (2005): Why Yma Sumac is better than Laguna Beach.
PRIDE/A DEEPER LOVE (2008): A journey home to Michigan, then a march in Manhattan.
ARE YOU OUTTA CONTROL? IS THAT DOG WALKING YOU? (2008): Bringing my dogs home.
A FIGHT AT THE MUSEUM (2007): My mentor's husband struggles to give away his family home.
EXPELLING BEE (2008): The most inappropriate things I ever wrote for school.
A GAY OLD TIME (2009): Mixing it up with Arthur Laurents.
BUTT PIRATES OF THE CARIBBEAN (2007): Our trip to Gay Days at Walt Disney World.
PUPPIES AS METAPHORS (2008): The Zen of Shih Tzu.
WIDE WORLD OF SPORTS (2007): Erotic memories of my brushes with the Big Leaguers.
BIRTH OF A SALESMAN (2006): Did you ever know I'm a natural-born capitalist?
BRING BACK ALL OF THOSE HAPPY DAYS (2008): The charm of Easter remains hidden to me.
SECRET SHOTS (2008): My trip to Dallas, and to the site of JFK's murder.
TAKING STOCK (2007): My first job—as a stockboy—helped me see what life had in store for me.
THE LOOK OF LOVE (2009): Meeting Maripol.
MO MO MO (2007): A journey to Missouri as a fat kid. Stuckey's was involved.
WHITE NIGHT (2009): The story of how I got my favorite celebrity pic-with ever.
I WAIT IN ANTICIPATION FOR YOUR TOUCH (2007): Meeting Belinda Carlisle and remembering the time I almost got my ass kicked in front of her.
I FELT THE MAGIC (2010): My second meeting with Belinda Carlisle.
WELL HEALED (2006): Some of the doctors I've had were enough to make ya sick.
THE JURY IS OUT (2007): My experience on a jury was so horrible I can't believe it's been so long since it happened!
LEGENDS OF THE FALL (2009): My next jury experience was better...kinda.
LONG-DISTANCE RUNNER (2008): A peek at my youthful roomabilia.
ON THE FACE OF IT (2009): My project to have all my high school classmates do simple self-portraits.
YES, ICON (2009): Meeting with Liz Rosenberg.
IT'S IN THE iSTARS: IN 15 MINUTES, WE'LL ALL BE FAMOUS (2009): One of my best essays. Top three.
THE TRUTH IS NOT MALICIOUS UNLESS YOU ARE LIVING A LIE (2007): The Thomas Roberts Affair, one of my first backlash backhands.
MADONNA: HINDSIGHT IS 50/50 (2008): My never-completed series meant to compare Madonna, at age 50, to 50 other famous women when they were the same age. Should've been a book for all the effort!
WILDE AT HEART (2008): A tribute to Kim Wilde.
DIDN'T I (BLOW YOU THIS TIME)? (2009): This passing along of the news about Jonathan Knight being gay went viral.
AND LIKE A CASTLE IN THE SAND, YOU HAD TO FALL APART (2009): Probably my favorite piece on Madonna and plastic surgery—and as you know, I've written lots of 'em.
OLD AGE IS NOT FOR SISSIES...OR FOR MADONNA (2008): My first plastic-surgery heart-attack over Madonna.
IT WAS A DARK AND STORMY HILTON... (2010): Visiting the Chiller Theatre Expo with Barbara Eden, the cast of Dallas and tons more OMG-listers.
UNFUNNY FACE (2006): Is Looker the best movie ever made?
DON'T CALL IT A COMEBACK (2007): Why Britney Spears sucks. Forever. Times infinity.
LOST ANGELES (2009): My favorite photographic travelogue of L.A.
REALITY CHECK (2008): These Mario Testino images of Ashton Kutcher in his skivvies gave me my hugest influx of traffic up to that point.
MADONNA & PRINTS (2009): The amazing Madonna prints I was—and am still (some left)—selling.
HARD TIMES (2009): The death of gay porn magazines. (Some are coming back soon!)
TOTALLY AWESOME '80S: AN a-ha MOMENT (2009): Musings on Morten.
ORANGE YOU GLAAD YOU CAME? (2010): Firsthand account of The 21st Annual GLAAD Media Awards.
CHAN THE MAN'S PRIZE-WINNING CAN (2009): Frustratingly, images of Channing Tatum's stripper days gave me what to this day were the most hits the site's ever gotten.
lazy/BEAUTIFUL (2006): Are women who try to look good slaves to male desire? Is Madonna?
WHAT HAPPENS AT MISS USA DOESN'T STAY AT MISS USA (2008): Things can get pretty/ugly at beauty pageants.
IT'LL LAST LONGER (2007): Unseen Madonna.
HAPPY ENDINGS (2006): The internet makes it hard to keep secrets, but it makes it easy to tell them, too!
"LET'S GO TO THE MOVIES...A DOUBLE FEATURE?" (2009): Screening Smithereens and Desperately Seeking Susan with director Susan Seidelman.
THE MOVIE-MAGIC CLUB (2010): My surreal time at the Desperately Seeking Susan 25th-anniversary screening.
BOTTOM'S REMORSE (2008): Maybe I just like the title, but this juicy exposé of a Mr. World turned pornstar did rack up the views.
PRETEND IT'S 1978 AND YOU'RE STRAIGHT (2008): Of Matt Dillon and Debralee Scott.
THE HANGING OFFENSES OF BETTE MIDLER (2005): My second-ever post, also recycled from a 2004 essay, was this hit piece on the not-always-Divine Miss M. Have my opinions softened? Somewhat.
LISOLETTE-DOWN (2008): Me and Mrs. Jones.
AS I AM, YOU WILL BE (2008): Madonna's chameleon ways under the microscope.
HE'S GOT THE PART (2007): There's something about Marcus Patrick...oh, wait, I know what it is.
SUPERFAG (2007): That gay joke from Vince Vaughn's new flick is quaint compared to this shit.
THE DIVA, THE DANCE FLOOR & HER WARDROBE (2005): Fame as a virus.
HARVEY MILKING IT (2009): My first stab at defending Perez Hilton.
THE DEATH OF "PEREZ HILTON" (2009): My second and best stab at defending Perez Hilton, but it goes way beyond exploring Mario-bashing.
TOTALLY AWESOME '80s: SHOOTING PARTY (2009): A predilection for pop perfection.
ACTION JACKSON (2007): This post on Cheyenne Jackson in reFRESH got me oodles of hits. My scans are the main ones from this mag seen all over the 'Net to this day.
ISLAND OF LOST SOUL (2006): First-hand info on Madonna's Island Magazine cover.
SCREENING QUEENS (2007): Are gay movies usually crappy? Or are gay people just crappy at supporting them?
DIVINE INTERVENTION (2007): My fascination with famous corpses.
QUAID MAKES ME RANDY (2008): Shirtless shots of buff Dennis Quaid became an Internet sensation thanks to my scans.
TRUNZO IS DUNZO (2007): Star Magazine implying gay people aren't quite right? Not normal!
MADONNA, OVER EASY (2006): This simple post, calling attention to Madonna's infamous egg movie from high school, was what got me my first Towleroad (and only Boing Boing) link.
STRENGTH IN NUMBERS (2009): The A Single Man press day, with video.
AND JILL CAME TUMBLING AFTER (2009): The death of Farrah Fawcett.
WHICH TWIN HAS THE BONER? (2008): I was first with pictures from outlaw twin brothers Keyontyli and Teleon Goffney, who along with committing robbery had earlier performed twincest for porn mags.
HE WENT POP (2010): Freezing my ass off for some Mr. Brainwash freebies.
POLITICS & ISSUES
THE MOURNING AFTER: AND NOW FOR THUMPING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT (2010): Mid-term migraine.
FLORIDA'S GOVERNOR ENGAYGED: DOES THIS COUNT AS "GAY MARRIAGE?" (2008): Charlie Crist is gay. Really, really gay.
HOW DO I LOVE THEE? LET ME COUNT THE GAYS... (2008): The gay affair with Hillary Clinton.
WORDS, THEY CUT LIKE A KNIFE (2008): Rejecting anti-gay slurs is not being PC.
SEROPERVERSION: TWISTED LOGIC & HIV (2008): Being judgmental is underrated.
ILL WILL & GRACELESS (2009): Why it's wrong to think flamboyant homosexuality is damaging our movement.
McCAIN (NOT THAT ONE) & OBAMA & ME & US (2010): I'm not ready to make nice, nor am I ready to make war, with the party that's letting me down.
PREGNANT PAUSE (2008): Remember how liberals were made to feel dirty for questioning Sarah Palin's questionable behavior while pregnant? And how conservatives were made to feel dirty for questioning Barack Obama's status as an American? Who gave it up and who's still not backing down?
SARAH PALIN = SPIRO AGNEW + HARRIET MIERS (2008): Aw, she'll never last...
THE MARRYING KIND (2008): That fabulously spontaneous anti-Prop 8 march in NYC.
OY, MOTHER (2006): Proof positive that Andrea Peyser is just a douche.
PLANET OUT (2007): The debate over labeling involving two magazines on in-the-life support.
NEW YORK TO McCAIN: DROP DEAD! (2008): The time I saw John McCain and showed him exactly how I felt.
BLACK, WHITE & GREY (2007): My take-down of the Isaiah Washington take-down.
MY REALITY IS I AM (NOT) A GAY AMERICAN (2007): Flushing out the Larry Craig affair.
ALL TIME HIGH (2008): When it was still okay to love Barack Obama.
OUTRAGE (2007): Barebacking, my great white whale.
STANDING O (2007): Was Oprah keeping it real in choosing O over Hill?
WHITE MISCHIEF (2008): When Bill and Hillary decided to use race in the race for the White House.
AND NOW FOR SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT (2007): I used that title a lot, apparently! This time, it's to kvetch about an infamous ex-gay.
STRINGS ATTACHED (2007): A review of the film version of The Kite Runner.
LADY GAGA LIVE: PAPARAZZI DON'T PREACH (2009): My first GaGa show, and I went GaGa for her.
SUCH AN INNNTERESTING MONSTER (2010): My favorite GaGa show.
CHANGE OF ART (2008): To 'the Brink with Cyndi Lauper.
ABOUT A BOY (2009): A review of the film Chris & Don.
YOU HAD TO LAUGH (2008): The first time I saw Kathy Griffin's stand-up act, it was falling-down funny.
BARE ESSENTIALS (2008): I'll never forget my first, Matthew Morrison-dominated Broadway Bares.
EVERYTHING YOU EVER WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT ROTATION (BUT WERE AFRAID TO ASK) (2008): My second Broadway Bares was even more bare, if that's possible.
IF YOU LIKED IT THEN YOU SHOULDA PUT A HOTEL ON IT: BROADWAY BARES XX—STRIP-OPOLY (2010): My latest excursion into the meat market.
DEBBIE REYNOLDS: SINGIN' THROUGH THE PAIN (2009): We were half the age of everyone else in the room...and Debbie knew it.
FULL-FRONTAL GALLOP (2008): I still think Equus got shafted.
SUPERWOMAN RETURNS (2006): My first of several reviews of Madonna's Confessions Tour. (Others found here under "Madonna.")
BERNHARD: WITH A VENGEANCE (2009): Seeing Sandra Bernhard's 20th anniversary Without You I'm Nothing.
AS I AM YOURS, YOU ARE MINE (2008): Assessing Christopher Ciccone's savage memoir about his sister.
"IT WAS ALL AT ONCE...EVERY WHICH WAY!" (2007): A review of Parting Glances and of Outfest's event celebrating its restoration.
INTO AFRICA (2008): The NYC premiere of Madonna's I Am Because We Are.
I DISSED A GIRL (2008): In which Katy Perry's charms elude me.
IT WAS GOOD (FOR ME) (2008): I actually liked the first Sex and the City movie.
HOLLYWOOD & FINE (2006): A quirky review of The Little Dog Laughed, co-starring Fran Drescher.
THERE'S A LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND FASCINATION (2008): A review of Wrangler, a documentary about the now deceased porn legend.
CLASS IN SESSUMS (2008): My take on the Kevin Sessums memoir Mississippi Sissy.
DREAMGIRLS (2006): My favorite film of the year had Beyoncé in it???
AND SHE'S WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO TAKE HER BACK TO WHERE SHE CAME FROM (2008): Yaz, we can!
THE TELL-SOME AUTOBIO (2007): Farley Granger's memoir teases without going all the way.
THEY WERE ALWAYS ON MY MIND (2009): Meeting and enjoying the Pet Shop Boys.
WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN?: PLATINUM BLONDIE IN THE FLESH (2010): Meeting Debbie Harry for the third time.
EVERYTHING OLD IS NEW WAVE AGAIN (2008): True Colors was a true delight.
WONDER NEVER CEASES (2007): I paid good money to hear Lynda Carter sing.
EATING OUT 2: SLOPPY SECONDS (2006): A review of the film I called an unlikely "guilty treasure."
YOU ARE WHAT YOU DON'T EAT (2009): The day I stopped eating red meat and pork.
MADONNA: STICKY/SWEET (2008): My first and second impressions of Madonna's most recent tour.
I FOUND GOD IN MYSEL/AND I LOVED HER/LOVED HER FIERCELY: A REVIEW OF PRECIOUS (2009): A hard-to-take movie was easy to choose as one of the year's best.
DO WHAT YOU USED TO DO (2008): Blondie's amazing Parallel Lines Tour.
THE BLACK DAHLIA (2006): A review of Brian De Palma's over-the-top, underwhelming film and a laundry list of what I love and hate about the filmmaker.
LIKE-ON: THE DEVIL I DIDN'T KNOW (2009): What happens when a Kylie Minogue hater sees her live show.
EVERY SINGLE, SOLITARY THING: A REVIEW OF A SINGLE MAN (2009): A movie that really moved me.
WHO IS HE? WHO WAS HE? WHO DOES HE HOPE TO BE? (2008): My affection for The Boys in the Band is never on the verge of "turning!"
HARD CANDY REVIEWED: GIVE ME A CHANCE TO GROW AND I'LL TAKE IT (2008): More thought than anyone's given Hard Candy...even Madonna!
THE VIEW HAS TWO FACES (2007): A review of Rosie O'Donnell's Celebrity Detox.
CONFESSIONS ON A DANCE FLOOR BY MADONNA (2005): My track-by-track of Madonna's most recent masterpiece.
EVIL WOMAN (2007): Assessing Debbie Harry's solo CD Necessary Evil...perhaps too kindly. Haven't listened to it since.
DON'T PRETEND YOU'RE NOT HUNGRY: MADONNA AT ROSELAND (2008): The one where I almost killed a girl at a Madonna concert.
DREAMBOY: AN INTERVIEW WITH MARCO DAPPER (2006): He now thinks the country is going "Socialist," but he's still nice to look at.
FAG IN A BLACK LEATHER JACKET: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE DIRECTOR Q. ALLAN BROCKA (2007): My Q&A with the guy responsible for integrating and interpreting my novel for the big screen.
TOWARD THE SPOTLIGHT: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE'S DARRYL STEPHENS (2007): Quizzing one of the nicest and smartest actors you'll ever meet.
GETTING THERE: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE'S DEREK MAGYAR (2007): Chatting with "X."
TRUSTING THE FALL: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE'S JONATHON TRENT (2007): Only Jonathon could play both guileless "Joy" in Boy Culture and Andrew Cunanan—as he later did—convincingly.
TAKE ME OUT OF THE CLOSET (2007): Aka, "I used to have Frederick Weller's phone number."