As of midnight last night, it was exactly six years since my first post. It's been a tough thing to keep up with a dayjob and outside activities, and just when I think I might walk away, a valuable connection or interesting opportunity or a kind word comes my way. Thank you all for reading me.
Of whom are you more jealous?
Here are my favorite 100+ posts out of nearly 11,000. Please take some time to read (or re-read!) a couple and tweet or Facebook any you like.
FROM BOY TO MAN: BC B.C. (2007): The entire history of my novell and novel Boy Culture as well as the movie version; might be my ultimate post.
BOY ON FILM (2006): An account of the NYC launch party for Boy Culture as it played the TriBeCa Film Fest.
FRIENDS AND "FAMILY" (2006): The movie version of Boy Culture hits Chicago.
RAPT PUPIL (2006): The final night of Outfest with Boy Culture; I was fat but on the other hand got to meet Bryan Singer.
"Your pictures suck" (2008): An art critic attacks me, but not without sustaining some hits in return.
DRAWN TOGETHER (2008): How my desire to draw related to my secret desire. One of my absolute favorite posts.
LOST ANGELES (2009): My favorite photographic travelogue of L.A.
ART IMITATES LIFE (2006): My 9/11 and my distaste for grief tourism.
BURNING MAN (2007): Tribute to my late high school friend and first romance.
LOST BOY FOUND (2011): There is a book in here somewhere.
CIAO HOUNDS: OUR TRIP TO ITALY (2011): Finally got José to Europe.
ILLINOIS DEATH TRIP (2007): Ruminations on death while revisiting a past home, and the past.
PASSING BY (2008): Mourning the loss of a person I only met once.
THE PICTURES OF VERNON GRAY (2010): Why materialism isn't always greedy.
GLACIAL PROFILING (2007): In which I manage to relate Tasti D-Lite (RIP) to my '80s teen angst.
THIS WAS THE NIGHT (2010): I finally locate the long-lost video of my drag performance as Samantha Fox!
THE FOUR-DAYTRIPPERS (2009): San Francisco in words and pictures.
PARTYBOY (2008): Turning 40. Sigh.
MY ROXY HEART (2006): The day The Roxy went bankrupt. Plus, bisexual French guys'll break your heart and have cruddy aim.
PROMISES, PROMISES (2008): The first appearance of my four-legged offspring, Hyphen & Sash Rettenmund-Vélez.
PRIDE/A DEEPER LOVE (2008): A journey home to Michigan, then a march in Manhattan.
ARE YOU OUTTA CONTROL? IS THAT DOG WALKING YOU? (2008): Bringing my dogs home.
A FIGHT AT THE MUSEUM (2007): My late mentor's husband struggles to give away his family home.
EXPELLING BEE (2008): The most inappropriate things I ever wrote for school.
BUTT PIRATES OF THE CARIBBEAN (2007): Our trip to Gay Days at Walt Disney World.
PUPPIES AS METAPHORS (2008): The Zen of Shih Tzu.
WIDE WORLD OF SPORTS (2007): Erotic memories of my brushes with the Big Leaguers.
BIRTH OF A SALESMAN (2006): Did you ever know I'm a natural-born capitalist?
BRING BACK ALL OF THOSE HAPPY DAYS (2008): The charm of Easter remains hidden to me.
SECRET SHOTS (2008): My trip to Dallas, and to the site of JFK's murder.
TAKING STOCK (2007): My first job—as a stockboy—helped me see what life had in store for me.
MO MO MO (2007): A journey to Missouri as a fat kid. Stuckey's was involved.
WELL HEALED (2006): Some of the doctors I've had were enough to make ya sick.
THE JURY IS OUT (2007): My experience on a jury was so horrible I can't believe it's been so long since it happened!
LEGENDS OF THE FALL (2009): My next jury experience was better...kinda.
LONG-DISTANCE RUNNER (2008): A peek at my youthful roomabilia.
ON THE FACE OF IT (2009): My project to have all my high school classmates do simple self-portraits.
"CALL ME" (NO, SERIOUSLY!) (2005): My first post on this blog and still one of my favorites—it's about meeting Debbie Harry at an exclusive AOL Sessions taping for The Curse of Blondie, but it's about more than just that.
HAVEN'T WE MET? (2010): Celebrating my time with someone I've only met once—Madonna.
DRAGGED IN—RUPAUL'S DRAG RACE: SEASON THREE CLIMAXES IN NYC (2011): Dressed you up.
HE WENT POP (2010): Freezing my ass off for some Mr. Brainwash freebies.
STRENGTH IN NUMBERS (2009): The A Single Man press day, with video.
ORANGE YOU GLAAD YOU CAME? (2010): Firsthand account of The 21st Annual GLAAD Media Awards.
SO TOTALLY GAY: THE 22ND ANNUAL GLAAD MEDIA AWARDS (2011): Catching Ricky with his lover, Ricky catching me.
WHITE NIGHT (2009): The story of how I got my favorite celebrity pic-with ever.
I FELT THE MAGIC (2010): My second meeting with Belinda Carlisle.
GO-GOING, GO-GOING, GONE-GONE (2011): Meeting the Go-Go's!
"IT WAS ALL AT ONCE...EVERY WHICH WAY!" (2007): A review of Parting Glances and of Outfest's event celebrating its restoration.
A GAY OLD TIME (2009): Mixing it up with Arthur Laurents.
THE LOOK OF LOVE (2009): Meeting Maripol.
YES, ICON (2009): Meeting with Liz Rosenberg...could ya die???
KATHY'S CHOICE: MY THREESOMES vs. MARCUS WELBY S&MD (2009): A fun but frustrating meet-up with Kathy Griffin.
HOW DARE SHE! (2011): Seeing and meeting Joan Rivers.
THERE HE IS: A REVIEW OF THE FIFTH ANNUAL BROADWAY BEAUTY PAGEANT (2011): So much talent, so few clothes.
ON MY MARRY WAY: GLAAD'S PARTY FOR THE SUMMER OF LOVE THAT DARE NOT SPEAK ITS NAME (2011): Hot guys, hot topic.
IT WAS A DARK AND STORMY HILTON... (2010): Visiting the Chiller Theatre Expo with Barbara Eden, the cast of Dallas and tons more OMG-listers.
"HE'S INSIDE ME": CHILLER THEATRE OF THE ABSURD (2011): Another foray into the horrifying world of Chiller.
SNOW JOKE: THE CHILLER THEATRE THAT FROZE MY HEART (2011): A trip to a third-world country ends badly.
THE "HI!" PRICE OF FAME: MAKING A CAMEO AT THE HOLLYWOOD SHOW (2011): Meeting and greeting some stars of yesterday-once-more.
NOT FOR LADIES ONLY: IT'S HOLLYWOOD SHOWTIME! (2011): Probably my fave autograph-show outing.
"AT MY AGE? ARE YOU KIDDING?": HOLLYWOOD SHOW & TELL (2011): A show where the vendors were as fun as the stars.
WHAT HAPPENS AT MISS USA DOESN'T STAY AT MISS USA (2008): Things can get pretty/ugly at beauty pageants.
DEBBIE REYNOLDS: SINGIN' THROUGH THE PAIN (2009): We were half the age of everyone else in the room...and Debbie knew it.
SHE WHIPS HER HEROINE BACK AND FORTH: A REVIEW OF NADYA GINSBURG'S MADONNALOGUES (2011): The best and wickedest Madonna impersonator...and so much more.
ON THE DRAG: THE 25TH ANNUAL NIGHT OF 1,000 GOWNS (2011): Costume drama!
"LET'S GO TO THE MOVIES...A DOUBLE FEATURE?" (2009): Screening Smithereens and Desperately Seeking Susan with director Susan Seidelman.
THE MOVIE-MAGIC CLUB (2010): My surreal time at the Desperately Seeking Susan 25th-anniversary screening.
THEY WERE ALWAYS ON MY MIND (2009): Meeting and enjoying the Pet Shop Boys.
WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN?: PLATINUM BLONDIE IN THE FLESH (2010): Meeting Debbie Harry for the third time.
AN OBSESSION IS BORN (2009): One of my best posts about my obsession with...obsession.
WALL TO WALL (2011): More specifically about my obsession with posters.
IT'S IN THE iSTARS: IN 15 MINUTES, WE'LL ALL BE FAMOUS (2009): One of my best essays. Top three.
THE TRUTH IS NOT MALICIOUS UNLESS YOU ARE LIVING A LIE (2007): The Thomas Roberts Affair, one of my first backlash backhands.
MADONNA: HINDSIGHT IS 50/50 (2008): My never-completed series meant to compare Madonna, at age 50, to 50 other famous women when they were the same age. Should've been a book for all the effort!
WILDE AT HEART (2008): An out-of-nowhere tribute to Kim Wilde.
DIDN'T I (BLOW YOU THIS TIME)? (2009): This passing along of the news about Jonathan Knight being gay went viral.
AND LIKE A CASTLE IN THE SAND, YOU HAD TO FALL APART (2009): Probably my favorite piece on Madonna and plastic surgery—and as you know, I've written lots of 'em.
UNFUNNY FACE (2006): Is Looker the best movie ever made?
DON'T CALL IT A COMEBACK (2007): Why Britney Spears sucks. Forever. Times infinity.
MADONNA & PRINTS (2009): The amazing Madonna prints I was—and am still (some left)—selling.
HARD TIMES (2009): The death of gay porn magazines. (Some are coming back soon!)
REFLECTIONS IN A VIOLET EYE: ELIZABETH TAYLOR DIES AT 79 (2011): The biggest living star fades out.
TOTALLY AWESOME '80S: AN a-ha MOMENT (2009): Musings on Morten.
"I'VE GOT A THEORY THAT YOU SHOULD DO EVERYTHING BEFORE YOU DIE"—RIP FARLEY GRANGER (2011): It bugs the hell out of me that I never met Farley Granger.
CHAN THE MAN'S PRIZE-WINNING CAN (2009): Frustratingly, images of Channing Tatum's stripper days gave me what were for a long time the most hits the site's ever gotten.
RE: RUNS (2011): My "gone too soon" TV candidates.
BROW WOW WOW (2011): I love your eyebrows, too, Joe.
HAPPY ENDINGS (2006): The internet makes it hard to keep secrets, but it makes it easy to tell them, too!
BOTTOM'S REMORSE (2008): Maybe I just like the title, but this juicy exposé of a Mr. World turned pornstar did rack up the views.
POP QUIZ: VIDEOS THAT KILLED (2011): Totally awesome '80s!
PRETEND IT'S 1978 AND YOU'RE STRAIGHT (2008): Of Matt Dillon and Debralee Scott.
WORSHIPING AT GAGA'S ELECTRIC CHAPEL: HAUS MUSIC ALL NIGHT LONG (2011): A fun promo event for one of the year's biggest albums.
THE HANGING OFFENSES OF BETTE MIDLER (2005): My second-ever post, also recycled from a 2004 essay, was this hit piece on the not-always-Divine Miss M. Have my opinions softened? Somewhat.
FOR THE BIRDS (2005): Why Yma Sumac is better than Laguna Beach. (Note: She passed away in 2008.)
LISOLETTE-DOWN (2008): Me and Mrs. Jones.
EVERYBODY I KNOW IS DESPERATE, EXCEPT FOR YOU (2011): Meeting Laurie Metcalf.
AS I AM, YOU WILL BE (2008): Madonna's chameleon ways under the microscope.
GOTTA HAND IT TO ZAC (2011): The mere rumor of Zac Efron being gay got me 20,000 hits.
HE'S GOT THE PART (2007): There's something about Marcus Patrick...oh, wait, I know what it is.
SUPERFAG (2007): That gay joke from Vince Vaughn's new flick is quaint compared to this shit.
THE DIVA, THE DANCE FLOOR & HER WARDROBE (2005): Fame as a virus.
HARVEY MILKING IT (2009): My first stab at defending Perez Hilton.
THE DEATH OF "PEREZ HILTON" (2009): My second and best stab at defending Perez Hilton, but it goes way beyond exploring Mario-bashing.
TOTALLY AWESOME '80s: SHOOTING PARTY (2009): A predilection for pop perfection.
ACTION JACKSON (2007): This post on Cheyenne Jackson in reFRESH got me oodles of hits. My scans are the main ones from this mag seen all over the 'Net to this day.
ISLAND OF LOST SOUL (2006): First-hand info on Madonna's Island Magazine cover.
SCREENING QUEENS (2007): Are gay movies usually crappy? Or are gay people just crappy at supporting them?
DIVINE INTERVENTION (2007): My fascination with famous corpses.
QUAID MAKES ME RANDY (2008): Shirtless shots of buff Dennis Quaid became an Internet sensation thanks to my scans.
TRUNZO IS DUNZO (2007): Star Magazine implying gay people aren't quite right? Not normal!
MADONNA, OVER EASY (2006): This simple post, calling attention to Madonna's infamous egg movie from high school, was what got me my first Towleroad (and only Boing Boing) link.
AND JILL CAME TUMBLING AFTER (2009): The death of Farrah Fawcett.
WHICH TWIN HAS THE BONER? (2008): I was first with pictures from outlaw twin brothers Keyontyli and Teleon Goffney, who along with committing robbery had earlier performed twincest for porn mags.
POLITICS & ISSUES
THE MOURNING AFTER: AND NOW FOR THUMPING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT (2010): Mid-term migraine.
FLORIDA'S GOVERNOR ENGAYGED: DOES THIS COUNT AS "GAY MARRIAGE?" (2008): Charlie Crist is gay. Really, really gay.
HOW DO I LOVE THEE? LET ME COUNT THE GAYS... (2008): The gay affair with Hillary Clinton.
WORDS, THEY CUT LIKE A KNIFE (2008): Rejecting anti-gay slurs is not being PC.
SEROPERVERSION: TWISTED LOGIC & HIV (2008): Being judgmental is underrated.
ILL WILL & GRACELESS (2009): Why it's wrong to think flamboyant homosexuality is damaging our movement.
PREGNANT PAUSE (2008): Remember how liberals were made to feel dirty for questioning Sarah Palin's questionable behavior while pregnant? And how conservatives were made to feel dirty for questioning Barack Obama's status as an American? Who gave it up and who's still not backing down?
IT GOT BETTER (2010): DADT goes bye-bye.
SARAH PALIN = SPIRO AGNEW + HARRIET MIERS (2008): Aw, she'll never last...
THE MARRYING KIND (2008): That fabulously spontaneous anti-Prop 8 march in NYC.
OY, MOTHER (2006): Proof positive that Andrea Peyser is just a douche.
PLANET OUT (2007): The debate over labeling involving two magazines on in-the-life support.
NEW YORK TO McCAIN: DROP DEAD! (2008): The time I saw John McCain and showed him exactly how I felt.
MY REALITY IS I AM (NOT) A GAY AMERICAN (2007): Flushing out the Larry Craig affair.
ALL TIME HIGH (2008): When it was still okay to love Barack Obama.
DAMN, I WISH SHE WOULDN'T DO THISI (2011): Sopie B. Hawkins GOesProud, I wish she'd GOHome.
OUTRAGE (2007): Barebacking, my great white whale.
STANDING O (2007): Was Oprah keeping it real in choosing O over Hill?
WHITE MISCHIEF (2008): When Bill and Hillary decided to use race in the race for the White House.
AND NOW FOR SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT (2007): I used that title a lot, apparently! This time, it's to kvetch about an infamous ex-gay.
BARE ESSENTIALS (2008): I'll never forget my first, Matthew Morrison-dominated Broadway Bares.
EVERYTHING YOU EVER WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT ROTATION (BUT WERE AFRAID TO ASK) (2009): My second Broadway Bares was even more bare, if that's possible.
IF YOU LIKED IT THEN YOU SHOULDA PUT A HOTEL ON IT: BROADWAY BARES XX—STRIP-OPOLY (2010): My latest excursion into the meat market.
FLYING SOLO—A VIDEO REVIEW OF BROADWAY BARES: SOLO STRIPS (2011): The most luscious dancers taking it all off for charity.
I KNOW WHAT I LIKE—A REVIEW OF BROADWAY BARES XX1: MASTERPIECE! (2011): The most bun-some BBares ever.
LADY GAGA LIVE: PAPARAZZI DON'T PREACH (2009): My first GaGa show, and I went GaGa for her.
SUCH AN INNNTERESTING MONSTER (2010): My favorite GaGa show.
CHANGE OF ART (2008): To 'the Brink with Cyndi Lauper.
ABOUT A BOY (2009): A review of the film Chris & Don.
SKELETON KEYS (2011): Lady Gaga's "Born This Way" video went all out.
YOU HAD TO LAUGH (2008): The first time I saw Kathy Griffin's stand-up act, it was falling-down funny.
FULL-FRONTAL GALLOP (2008): I still think Equus got shafted.
SUPERWOMAN RETURNS (2006): My first of several reviews of Madonna's Confessions Tour.
BERNHARD: WITH A VENGEANCE (2009): Seeing Sandra Bernhard's 20th anniversary Without You I'm Nothing.
ENOLA GAY PRIDE: A REVIEW OF OMD @ IRVING PLAZA (2011): My first OMD concert.
AS I AM YOURS, YOU ARE MINE (2008): Assessing Christopher Ciccone's savage memoir about his sister.
"WE'RE LIVING THROUGH WAR": A REVIEW OF THE NORMAL HEART (2011): One of the best things I've ever seen.
INTO AFRICA (2008): The NYC premiere of Madonna's I Am Because We Are.
I DISSED A GIRL (2008): In which Katy Perry's charms elude me.
IT WAS GOOD (FOR ME) (2008): I actually liked the first Sex and the City movie.
If fame were heroin he'd be shooting stars
HOLLYWOOD STARFUCKER (2011): Bill Dakota's life as a metaphor.
HOLLYWOOD & FINE (2006): A quirky review of The Little Dog Laughed, co-starring Fran Drescher.
THERE'S A LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND FASCINATION (2008): A review of Wrangler, a documentary about the now deceased porn legend.
CLASS IN SESSUMS (2008): My take on the Kevin Sessums memoir Mississippi Sissy.
DREAMGIRLS (2006): My favorite film of the year had Beyoncé in it???
AND SHE'S WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO TAKE HER BACK TO WHERE SHE CAME FROM (2008): Yaz, we can!
THE TELL-SOME AUTOBIO (2007): Farley Granger's memoir teases without going all the way.
EVERYTHING OLD IS NEW WAVE AGAIN (2008): True Colors was a true delight.
WONDER NEVER CEASES (2007): I paid good money to hear Lynda Carter sing.
EATING OUT 2: SLOPPY SECONDS (2006): A review of the film I called an unlikely "guilty treasure."
YOU ARE WHAT YOU DON'T EAT (2009): The day I stopped eating red meat and pork.
MADONNA: STICKY/SWEET (2008): My first and second impressions of Madonna's most recent tour.
FEELING SUPER-DUPER (2011): Finally getting to see my pal Simon Curtis perform live!
I FOUND GOD IN MYSELF/AND I LOVED HER/LOVED HER FIERCELY: A REVIEW OF PRECIOUS (2009): A hard-to-take movie was easy to choose as one of the year's best.
DO WHAT YOU USED TO DO (2008): Blondie's amazing Parallel Lines Tour.
THE BLACK DAHLIA (2006): A review of Brian De Palma's over-the-top, underwhelming film and a laundry list of what I love and hate about the filmmaker.
LIKE-ON: THE DEVIL I DIDN'T KNOW (2009): What happens when a Kylie Minogue hater sees her live show.
EVERY SINGLE, SOLITARY THING: A REVIEW OF A SINGLE MAN (2009): A movie that really moved me.
WHO IS HE? WHO WAS HE? WHO DOES HE HOPE TO BE? (2008): My affection for The Boys in the Band is never on the verge of "turning!"
HARD CANDY REVIEWED: GIVE ME A CHANCE TO GROW AND I'LL TAKE IT (2008): More thought than anyone's given Hard Candy...even Madonna!
THE VIEW HAS TWO FACES (2007): A review of Rosie O'Donnell's Celebrity Detox.
CONFESSIONS ON A DANCE FLOOR BY MADONNA (2005): My track-by-track of Madonna's most recent masterpiece.
EVIL WOMAN (2007): Assessing Debbie Harry's solo CD Necessary Evil...perhaps too kindly. Haven't listened to it since.
DON'T PRETEND YOU'RE NOT HUNGRY: MADONNA AT ROSELAND (2008): The one where I almost killed a girl at a Madonna concert.
JUST FOR KICKS: AN INTERVIEW WITH MR. BROADWAY, MICHAEL CUSUMANO (2011): The one question I didn't ask him was the one question anyone would want to ask upon seeing this cutie.
A SOCIALITE AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL: AN INTERVIEW WITH KEVIN MICHAEL BARBA (2011): Gay do-gooder or lost cause?
DREAMBOY: AN INTERVIEW WITH MARCO DAPPER (2006): He now thinks the country is going "Socialist," but he's still nice to look at.
ANONYMOUS SEX: AN INTERVIEW WITH BLACK SPARK (2011): The barebacking (con?) artist speaks.
YOU CAN PUT YOUR ARMS AROUND A MEMORY: A REVIEW OF WEEKEND + INTERVIEW WITH ANDREW HAIGH (2011): Just what it says!
FAG IN A BLACK LEATHER JACKET: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE DIRECTOR Q. ALLAN BROCKA (2007): My Q&A with the guy responsible for integrating and interpreting my novel for the big screen.
TOWARD THE SPOTLIGHT: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE'S DARRYL STEPHENS (2007): Quizzing one of the nicest and smartest actors you'll ever meet.
GETTING THERE: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE'S DEREK MAGYAR (2007): Chatting with "X."
TRUSTING THE FALL: AN INTERVIEW WITH BOY CULTURE'S JONATHON TRENT (2007): Only Jonathon could play both guileless "Joy" in Boy Culture and Andrew Cunanan—as he later did—convincingly.
THE CREEL DEAL (2011): Chatting with Broadway babe Gavin Creel.
TAKE ME OUT OF THE CLOSET (2007): Aka, "I used to have Frederick Weller's phone number."
CAUSE CELEBRE—A REVIEW OF SAL MINEO: A BIOGRAPHY AND INTERVIEW WITH THE AUTHOR (2011): A book I couldn't down and a Q&A with a guy who's helped preserve a man's legacy.
THE TWINKIE DEFENSE: AN INTERVIEW WITH COURTNEY BURR (2011): A fascinating man opens up about his unique connection to a late, great gay artist.
VAL MINEO: AN INTERVIEW WITH VAL LAUREN (2011): Meet the actor bringing Sal Mineo back to life.